Good Mourning Grief

A blog about my adventures as a grief warrior

Category: Good Readings (Page 4 of 4)

Suggested readings to support your grief

November 23, 2020 /

Besides casseroles, squares and flowers, the number one ‘gift’ we received was books. I now have a growing library of books related to grief.  Who would have guessed?  I am an avid reader, mostly non-fiction, related to my work or self growth.  And so I guess my books about grief fall into the self growth category.

My first read I wanted something comforting.  From my pile, I chose “Tear Soup”, a beautifully illustrated story affirming the bereaved.  Written by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck Deklyen, and illustrated by Taylor Bills, it’s comparison of grief to the making of soup are relatable for any age. I cried, actually I sobbed, when reading this. My grief was very new and I related to Grandy. I shared her pain. I read it over and over. It contains hope, it contains tips and it contains resources to find help with your own grief.   It also makes a great gift to give with your own jar of homemade soup to someone you know who is grieving.  

You can buy this book at your local book store, Indigos or on Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/TEAR-SOUP-Recipe-healing-after/dp/B001AX76OO

Grief 101: Beliefs are not made of Stone

August 23, 2020 /

I’m not sure what your beliefs are.  I do know that when great loss is experienced, whatever your beliefs are comes into question.  I always believed there is a reason for everything.  I believed in a higher power to which I prayed to daily and raised my children to believe you must ‘trust the plan’.  And then 2018 arrived and I can’t believe there is any sort of magical plan to justify what has happened. 

So when my girlfriend dropped off several books on stories shared by various popular mediums, I placed the pile on my shelf and pondered is this for me?   I believed in angels.  I believed in after life and perhaps that made it easier to think there are spirits able to visit us.  Or maybe it is just a sheer desire to connect with Zane again. When you are grieving, all you have is hope that your loved one is nearby still.   And I believe in love, God, vibration energy…things I can’t see or explain so it wasn’t a far stretch for me to believe in the spirit world.

The first book from this pile was “Unfinished Business” by James Van Praagh, a world-famous medium with over 25 years experience speaking to the other side.

This book was about those who no longer live on earth, what they can teach us about life. It contains many stories of readings he has given and how loved ones from across the veil have brought powerful and healing messages.

Some chapters resonated with me, others gave me hope.  One chapter (on karma) scared the crap out of me.  Overall a great read containing lessons that all of us can practice while we are here on earth.

Every belief I had, I have now questioned. Some beliefs I have a new understanding with. Others, the jury is still out. And my grief has given me new beliefs, among them that anything is possible.

Grief One Day at a Time

June 28, 2020 /

Every one of us that knows grief knows of Dr. Wolfelt.  He has written several books and has spoken to thousands of people about the possibility of healing after loss. His book “Grief One Day at a Time” is a daily meditation I continue to read each morning.  When this book first arrived I could not open it.  It was too soon.  It was August when Zane was killed and the first day I had the strength to open up this book the daily meditation in that month was about life being chaotic but still beautiful and that “I was doing ok”. 

I threw the book against the wall. It stayed unopened until January.  The meditation on the first day of the New Year was different.  Maybe it was because I was now 4 months into my grief journey. Perhaps the message was more hopeful.  It was about remembering our loved one.  “This year I will remember and I will love” the good Doctor suggests to us. I could do this.  I want to do this.  This was good mourning.

Maybe the book was written with a New Year in mind, grief beginning at January, regardless of the month your loved one passed over. Regardless, it is a book every grief warrior should have on their shelf.  The meditations are easy to read and each includes a quote, a message and a meditation.

Thank you Dr. Wolfelt, you are the rope to which keeps so many of us from falling of the edge.

More about Dr Wolfelt and the work he does can be found at https://www.centerforloss.com

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