Each of us, living with grief, says the same thing when we meet a fellow grief warrior. “I did not want to join this community.” And who would? Yet, here we are. Sentenced to a life of bitter sweet.
There is a very special bond I share with the mothers of those who have also lost a child. We live the unimaginable, together.
In this circle, I can cry, every time, with no apologies. In this circle I can take off my mask and share how it sucks that I am robbed of all the typical things a mother looks forward to. And they get it. Sadly, they really get it.
But it is also a group of hope. Who else can you ask for ideas on how to spend the first holiday, birthday, vacation, without your baby? These friends know. And their ideas and sentiments are creative, meaningful and healing. This is a new set of friends that help each other move forward with grief. We are learning, wanting to share life with our child that is still very much with us. We just can’t hold them like other mothers can hold theirs.
Recent posts about Shared Grief
- The Five Invitations by Frank OstaseskiMy daughter and I were shopping at the Good Will Store (one of my favorite places to find lost treasures) and I was pulled to the cart of items to go back on the shelves. Lying on the middle shelf was a book, “The Five Invitations.” The cover read “discovering what death can teach us… Read more: The Five Invitations by Frank Ostaseski
- How to Get Your Broom Back by Gabrielle St. GeorgeThe book, “How to Get Your Broom Back”, is not my typical grief reading subject, but it came to me across Instagram as a book every woman should read when she turns 50. Although I am older than the suggested demographic, I too liked the idea of ‘getting my broom back’. It was a great… Read more: How to Get Your Broom Back by Gabrielle St. George
- One Last Time by John EdwardJohn Edward is an internationally acclaimed psychic medium whose book One Last Time is the story of his personal journey of discovering and developing his talents to communicate with the other side. Throughout the book, Mr. Edward shares numerous readings and encounters with grieving individuals who sought messages from deceased loved ones. A major theme… Read more: One Last Time by John Edward
- Conscious Grieving by Claire Bidwell SmithClaire is a therapist, specializing in grief who, through her book Conscious Grieving, offers the reader four linear orientations that happen when one experiences loss. She encourages the reader to refer to this book many times as each time something new could be discovered. Entering into grief is the first orientation which was filled with… Read more: Conscious Grieving by Claire Bidwell Smith
- The Sheep Detectives ReviewI don’t enjoy a lot of movies because I tend to “live” the movie as if it was my own life. I become the characters, the plot is happening to me and those I know…I reflect, remember and ponder over the outcomes for weeks after I see it. Thus, my love for Hallmark. It is… Read more: The Sheep Detectives Review