Each of us, living with grief, says the same thing when we meet a fellow grief warrior. “I did not want to join this community.” And who would? Yet, here we are. Sentenced to a life of bitter sweet.

There is a very special bond I share with the mothers of those who have also lost a child. We live the unimaginable, together.

In this circle, I can cry, every time, with no apologies. In this circle I can take off my mask and share how it sucks that I am robbed of all the typical things a mother looks forward to. And they get it. Sadly, they really get it.

But it is also a group of hope. Who else can you ask for ideas on how to spend the first holiday, birthday, vacation, without your baby? These friends know. And their ideas and sentiments are creative, meaningful and healing. This is a new set of friends that help each other move forward with grief. We are learning, wanting to share life with our child that is still very much with us. We just can’t hold them like other mothers can hold theirs.

Recent posts about Shared Grief

  • How to Discover Your Life Purpose by Dr. Jordan Blake
    The last book I bought in January was to be a pre-read to setting goals for the year. I had thought I was reading it to strengthen what I already know about values, but Dr. Blake’s writings had me starting all over again. And, although not the intention of the book, what I adapted was… Read more: How to Discover Your Life Purpose by Dr. Jordan Blake
  • F**K Death by Steve Case
    My favorite expression of anything ultimate is the “f” bomb.  Yes, not lady like but uttering the word leaves no misunderstandings that whatever the word is related to is big. The book “F**K Death”, states that it is a guide to get you through grief without all the BS that accompanies it by well meaning… Read more: F**K Death by Steve Case
  • Dear Drew by Melissa Hull
    Melissa Hull is an internationally recognized voice in grief recovery. Her book, Dear Drew, is about dealing with grief, guilt and discovering resiliency. Her experience comes from the trauma of her young son who passed in a drowning accident. Writing this book, she hoped to help the reader create a life bigger than their grief.… Read more: Dear Drew by Melissa Hull
  • A Guide to Meet Your Angels
    The fabulous, connective Mike Dooley of Notes from the Universe, offers 21-day courses of different topics that inspire, educate and enlighten. One course he aligned with Sonia Choquette to teach us about spirit guides and angels and how they can support one’s journey. We start by considering our own spirit. Who are you? What does… Read more: A Guide to Meet Your Angels
  • Finding the Blue Sky by Joseph Emet
    Grief brings with it a lot of negative thinking. Happiness is elusive. The book “Finding the Blue Sky” by Joseph Emet was a suggested read for me to help move my own grey clouds. An enlightening read containing twelve chapters. Each begins with a story, then a reflection and a practice. It is a book… Read more: Finding the Blue Sky by Joseph Emet