Each of us, living with grief, says the same thing when we meet a fellow grief warrior. “I did not want to join this community.” And who would? Yet, here we are. Sentenced to a life of bitter sweet.

There is a very special bond I share with the mothers of those who have also lost a child. We live the unimaginable, together.

In this circle, I can cry, every time, with no apologies. In this circle I can take off my mask and share how it sucks that I am robbed of all the typical things a mother looks forward to. And they get it. Sadly, they really get it.

But it is also a group of hope. Who else can you ask for ideas on how to spend the first holiday, birthday, vacation, without your baby? These friends know. And their ideas and sentiments are creative, meaningful and healing. This is a new set of friends that help each other move forward with grief. We are learning, wanting to share life with our child that is still very much with us. We just can’t hold them like other mothers can hold theirs.

Recent posts about Shared Grief

  • Grief is Love by Marisa Renee Lee
    The latest book I read was, “Grief is Love” by Marisa Renee Lee who wished to reveal how one can create space for their grief to help experience joy in this life.  Her story is of loss that she has experienced personally through the death of her mother, a pregnancy and a young cousin. Interestingly… Read more: Grief is Love by Marisa Renee Lee
  • Welcome Home by Najwa Zebian
    I picked up the book “Welcome Home” because of its tag line, “a guide to building a home for your soul”. We are told that when great loss arrives, we will never be the same.  Nor should we want to. I have bought into that theory. However, this belief then begs the question, where does… Read more: Welcome Home by Najwa Zebian
  • Where Did You Go? by Christina Rasmussen
    One of the very first books I read after Zane was killed was written by Christina Rasmussen. Her story was about her beloved husband who passed from cancer. Her heart could not believe that he was gone, so she set out to search for a way to connect with his spirit. The results and how… Read more: Where Did You Go? by Christina Rasmussen
  • Coping with Grief Overload by Dr. Wolfelt
    I preach that when you experience more than 3 of the top 10 stresses within a year, you become ill. Death is the top stress and when our family has experienced over a dozen in less than two years, how do I wonder why I am not feeling well. It is called grief overload.  And… Read more: Coping with Grief Overload by Dr. Wolfelt
  • Imagine Heaven by John Burke
    John Burke is an author, international speaker, and a pastor. His book shares the near-death experience (NDE) of hundreds of people and their story of what they saw when their soul was temporarily disconnected from their body. This subject makes an interesting read. The fact that every person had a similar experience (regardless of age,… Read more: Imagine Heaven by John Burke